Cat Power.
The other day I remembered that long ago I read a novel Jardiel Poncela in which the protagonist was a seducer, but not a seducer in the fashion, ie a natural seducer but a man who had learned to seduce her uncle . I searched the book to reread the advice of the uncle and the truth is that I found very little useful. Poncela Jardiel merely say that the protagonist learned everything from his uncle but soon enters what is it that the uncle taught him. Practically the only interesting it tells us is that, Sam has to be permanently bold and ingenious. Then I was thinking and the truth is that as a council could not be better ...
For Jardiel Enrique Ponce end if any of you been bitten by the curiosity the novel of which I speak is but ... Was there ever eleven thousand virgins?, Auque I will recommend his plays more than his novels.
Lilly Allen. The Fear.
in doubt, always choose the most daring.
The world belongs to the brave, those who try. I once said, if you work the inner game is just for do what ordinary mortals dare not do. If you want security in yourself is to make things bold, very bold. A few weeks ago an editorial in the New York Times termed a Barack Obama as a man confident enough to challenge all political conventions - she was too young, too inexperienced, too black, too little black - As you can see there were a thousand reasons why Obama did not try, and you know the end of the story. There will always be a reason for not doing things so if you really want something do not waste time waiting longer be risks because there will always be risks.
In the best-seller The Secret Rhonda Bryne says the existence of a law of attraction, god-like features, that if we will achieve something profoundly. Personally I prefer a less mystical: if you want some truth, we will try and only then will succeed. Really that's the secret behind the Law of Attraction: be bold, try it.
But ... What is to be bold when it comes to seduce? Exactly what I feared: to show interest. Audacity is closer to a woman and tell her that is beautiful, kiss her when it comes to kissing, compliments where you find beautiful. Seduce is risky to continue, ignoring the risks, the possibility of failure or humiliation. This really
is indifferent to the result. There is no greater lie that says that the negative criticism or failure will not affect you. Clear that affect, and pretty. The question is can affect you enough to change your behavior? To seduce the indifference to the result is to think of it this way: I like and I want to seduce you, who reject me will hurt me but not enough to abandon the attempt to seduce. Get the idea? Be bold, take risks, show interest.
So here's my advice: when in doubt, choose the most daring. Faced with a choice always choose the solution that leaves you exposed. I really have nothing to lose because in the event of failure, of course less likely than you think, you will always have the consolation of having learned the lesson for next time. As the French say: you have to suffer to be beautiful.
Ingenio.
Except for very desperate women audacity alone is insufficient to get the girl. That's something you have to combine the boldness is resourcefulness. Arguably, the wit is the pass that allows you to be bold with impunity.
What is to be witty? This is what we usually call to be fast, be able to devise or invent it quickly. A person with talent is able to improvise a replica, a funny comment or a compliment.
But the important thing not define what is to be witty, this already dealing with dictionaries, but why be resourceful. The problem for many people to be bold when acting is bewitched by the idea that they have to do something sublime to appear as special guys. Actually you have to do is use your wits to make women feel special, to justify our audacity in its appeal. Fortunately, in so doing also reveals how special men, and men able to feel good for women. But do not forget that this is not the direct target, it is that women feel special.
me give an example, this is a conversation I had with a waitress the other day. I do not like to flirt with the waitresses pretty hard because it's your job to have to put up but the bar was so empty, my friend was busy with a girl and the conversation arose between the two spontaneously. We had been talking just a minute when I said
- you know I love to go to North Korea.
- Really?
- (laughing) yes of course, I go crazy. For you I'd go anywhere in the world, that includes the world's most horrific dictatorship.
- ja, ja that say it all.
- Let You really think I'm so freak to go through life by offering tickets to Pyongyang? What do you because I've noticed that you're a woman intelligent, with concerns. There are a woman you enjoy queuing more like a tourist but someone like me who feels a great curiosity to see what the last country in the world where you would live. I offer you something so unusual because you are an exceptional woman, out of the ordinary. (Pause) What is difficult is to find champagne in Pyongyang.
The last sentence of the sample requires an explanation. Only include if you sense you're going too fast with these jokes release the excess tension you create. This is a typical tactic of two steps forward, one step back. Except here is not the woman to step forward but it's not back. With the first expression of interest is highly recommended to keep you a comment like this to keep a woman might think that went very fast.
I want to stress again that there is so much you have to do something special but look for something special in it that allows you to show interest in an ingenious way. Remember that what matters is not present yourself as a man superior to others but make you feel superior to others. That is why I have chosen for this post the music of Lily Allen, because his new album is called It's not me, it's you (not me, you).
Some will say that acting in this way is to lose part of the award, rookie mistake. If you act thinking you have to do something to be perceived as someone special is when you lose because you want his approval, which will qualify as special. Keep acting like I say because you're under the scheme: I choose, I choose you because you're special. In this regard it is essential to remember that boldness is of little use without wit, and wit without daring even less.
The great master is to combine boldness with ingenuity is Zan Perrion you can read more examples here.
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