Zero Yeah, yeah, yeahs.
I guess as a seducer accustomed to look on the bright side of things. So when you're in Paris but you will not be able to leave the hotel room you think about what to do. Could make as prostitutes in the sixties, out into the hall and wait for someone to pass apeticible. While I can think of any better ideas get French TV and I see Neil Strauss on it. I do not like the TV but, after all, the rules are to jump, the corridor plan could be expected. It was a program where they interview several people at once looking to interact. Style was promoting his new book Rules of the Game, Spain Domina method in 30 days (in France 30 jours pour séduire / Confessions d'un virtuoso Dredge) and next to him was the French comedian Elie Semoun. In an interview when asked Semoun their views on the ideas of Style and replied to frame a sentence, said that women naturally distrustful of men and to seduce rather than directly to the big game must first win confidence. Neil Strauss was quite stiff entire program had no choice but to agree with him and wish that this guy did not write books of seduction because otherwise nobody would buy yours.
Semoun The phrase sums up an idea that is essential to understand everything to expressions of interest (which is often called SOIs or ADIs) but I prefer to call compliment.
The other day a reader (particularly Tuyyoya) I asked for help for their compliments one worked. I asked what name was a compliment work. And now I repeat the question to you what has to happen for a compliment work?
For me the answer is clear: a compliment works as long as possible to reduce the natural suspicion that women feel towards a man who intends to link with them.
Women want to be seduced, I have no doubt, but do not want to be deceived. And that fear of being misled them leads to distrust of men and fill obstacles in the path to seduction. The role of a compliment is to pave the way by removing obstacles such as showing men interested in it, men who see her as a woman special, different and better than the others.
And on that basis builds compliments thinking of only one idea: to convey to women the idea that you care about her because she is special, different and better than the others.
The reason that many men do not work is because authorities are more aware of what you why. Ie compliments release in order to obtain the validation of women and is becoming his lapdogs willing to applaud any plan or bullies in extolling his virtues while making it clear that they are better.
A compliment is something that will increase your sex appeal, no. A compliment is something that explains why you're there and why you want to go further. A compliment you say thinking about why (piropeo you because you're special) not on what (I piropeo to see that I am attractive). With praise is not you be the handsome but what she is.
position value.
That's a compliment to say that we must start from a position of value is false. Must start from a position of credibility. As I explained a compliment seeks to overcome the resistance of a woman passing on your belief that is special. If you do not sound credible only thing you get is making things worse.
I met a girl who told me that once was with a guy and the thing went really well. Then he began to recite poems extremely beautiful. She grabbed her purse and ran. What happened? Man that sounded less credible at all, barely knew the woman and get to recite love poems. It was clear that he had no interest in it than a hole to fill. From a position of value: the event went very well, the compliment was very good: poetry worthy of a professional (if in the XXI century professionals remain poetry) but I missed the genuineness and boy, that is key when it comes to compliments.
What makes more sense is the rule that women earn the compliment. Of course, interpreted in a different way to what is often seen on the forums.
are many who argue that should not compliment to a woman until you have received or IOIs IDIS (call them what you want). I think a fairly idiot. The one fact is complimenting it only when you see something in the woman susceptible to compliments. If a woman behaves like a real bitch you complimenting not lead to any positive results. But not because parts of a situation value but for lack of authenticity: how can a man minimally balanced feel genuine attraction to a woman who despises him.
is an idea that I discussed earlier, the only sign that he likes the woman that I have in mind is that it be disclosed as it is, investing in the conversation showing his personality and his way of being. Is that what I seek and value. That woman makes me Lips that touch your hair or dilate the pupils do not give particular importance. It's not just that they can be false signals (see I wrong signals "are easily seduced? ) is simply consistency: I have enough success with women to get excited by having a woman behind me instead I prefer to have some fun with a woman. Do not look for a fan, I seek a companion with whom to walk through life a few hours, days or perhaps years.
therefore is not piropee because I am in a situation of value, as the woman happens to have invested in the interaction I have seen in her details that flatter.
Start with a compliment.
Everything I have said ... Does that mean I can not open for a compliment? No, it means that if you say a compliment at minute 5, 10, 60 or 2880 (which is 2 days) have to be consistent with what has happened in those 5, 10, 60 or 2880 minutes. When
open with a compliment can not be consistent with what has happened because nothing has happened (yet) but you can be consistent with your way of being. It goes back to before: do not confuse what to why. This is not to start with a compliment for the girl to see you as someone attractive and you do not reject but to start with a compliment because you are a social person interested in knowing that woman on the ground that transmits the compliment. So you manage to overcome their natural distrust of strangers who come to pick her up. It is not about who thinks you're attractive but there is no reason to distrust you.
By opening with a compliment does not seek to generate attractive but be perceived as a sociable and interested in know the reason for expressing the compliment. This is demonstrated in the way they react to their response. Want to socialize and a refusal by the woman does not depressed but you start the game. This is where that phrase makes sense Perrion Zan behaving as if speaking Martian when a woman says no.
Consistency = proportionality.
One way, perhaps the best, to see when a compliment prevail against what is to analyze why they are proportionate to the time of interaction.
A compliment must be consistent to what just happened. This is to remove barriers and this is only achieved being proportional to what has happened, otherwise the woman suspect everything is a preconceived plan and artificial.
Schematically (and therefore a bit reductionist) a compliment by the time you can transmit these feelings:
1) You are special, I know. At first, you do not know. You sense that the girl is special in some trait Based yours. Intend to start a conversation with her.
2) You are special, I know you better. You've talked to her and your compliment reflects that between the two first connection. It is deep in a chat that show your personality.
3) You are special, I'm glad to be with you. And you know well and can appreciate his personality. It's about starting a relationship (which need not be long) to reach sexual level.
And finally, the big question, which compliments.
Watch this ad.
This is what needs to be complimenting: what makes you special, what makes you different. Take that and say it's wonderful that exactly that is special.
Learn to see things different in the way of being of women. It can be something of the way they dress, relate or fabulous ass. Anyway, you get used to looking for what makes for you this woman is special and values.
Annex.
Seduction of a person and have many common masses. One of them is trust, just as you can not expect a woman to sleep with you if you do not trust you can not expect to win an election if people do not trust you. This article by John Carlin on the problems of British Prime Minister think will be very useful to assess the importance of being oneself. (Note to quote Shakespeare. Spectacular)
The Tragedy of Brown
By the way John Carlin is the author of a magisterial book called The Human Factor how Mandela managed to reconcile a nation with something as inconsequential as a game Rugby. A book that not only make you better seductive but also better people, two things that, unfortunately, not always go together.
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